tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post1091872020956006107..comments2024-03-22T21:55:42.651+00:00Comments on Elizabeth Baines: No thanksElizabeth Baineshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-87125761339885333092011-01-22T22:24:52.168+00:002011-01-22T22:24:52.168+00:00I often get asked in a work context about digital ...I often get asked in a work context about digital stuff by students and often get the same kind of rudeness. I tend to reply initially by asking some questions back about what they want to find out, and for what reason. If they don't get back to me, its obvioulsy not that important.Adrian Slatcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13946068316432524571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-74457987410867149762011-01-19T12:48:03.965+00:002011-01-19T12:48:03.965+00:00Whoops. Tome or time, same difference...Whoops. Tome or time, same difference...Elizabeth Baineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-13584922937011064912011-01-19T12:14:31.002+00:002011-01-19T12:14:31.002+00:00Well, the more I think about it the more I think i...Well, the more I think about it the more I think it's unacceptable, and if that makes me seem like an old fart then all I can say is, I'd rather not do favours for people who write me off as an old fart for expecting at least some kind of acknowledgement when I've given up my tome and creativity and thought for them for free.Elizabeth Baineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-31565930700661312552011-01-19T11:57:01.623+00:002011-01-19T11:57:01.623+00:00I agree with you, Elizabeth. Hardly anyone ever th...I agree with you, Elizabeth. Hardly anyone ever thanks for anything in my experience. I've sent books to people from time to time and never heard a word back...it's a general tendency all over the place and not just on this matter. Now I'm going to sound DEAD OLD FASHIONED but the 'thank you letter' (or email!) seems to be a thing of the past. We were always encouraged to write them when I was at school...I can also remember my mother putting me to sit at a table with a bit of paper and a pen to write such a letter after Christmas, for instance. I bet no one does such things now, but it creates a habit and I write thank you letters to this day! God, I sound OLD!adelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15826710558292792068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-38726348806079638292011-01-18T22:20:09.184+00:002011-01-18T22:20:09.184+00:00Hi Elisabeth, what I'm talking about are what ...Hi Elisabeth, what I'm talking about are what seem like personal emails rather than blog requests. I don't feel hurt in the least; rather, I'm wondering if it's worth bothering to continue to respond to such requests with the courtesy of time and thought.Elizabeth Baineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-88377757293025065332011-01-18T22:09:26.930+00:002011-01-18T22:09:26.930+00:00I'm one such questioner, Elizabeth and I'm...I'm one such questioner, Elizabeth and I'm always grateful to receive a response but sometimes I fear I too fail to say thank you. Most times not though. At least I hope not. <br /><br />In blogging the requests for a response are so much less directed. There are those who view the Internet as a place where conventional politeness is unnecessary and others who bridle under the weight of all these transgressions. <br /><br />I suppose in the end we must distance ourselves, or we can feel very easily very hurt.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-86986835288773943152011-01-18T21:26:59.859+00:002011-01-18T21:26:59.859+00:00Well, I can't agree. Both are discourtesies, b...Well, I can't agree. Both are discourtesies, but this is particularly personal. Unless of course it's not, and you're just one of a hundred or so authors they've written to with their request...Elizabeth Baineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-43758947773619059002011-01-18T21:19:54.079+00:002011-01-18T21:19:54.079+00:00I suppose Im just battle-hardened! If we have to p...I suppose Im just battle-hardened! If we have to put up with enormous discourtesies from editors of online mags who, despite soliciting email submissions, cant be arsed to respond to subs except for those that they publish, usually for nothing (!) ... then this discourtesy is peanuts!Vanessa Gebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09088301040602803489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-87091361583216816432011-01-18T21:05:11.310+00:002011-01-18T21:05:11.310+00:00Hm. V, I don't think a polite thank you is dra...Hm. V, I don't think a polite thank you is drawing someone into a dialogue. If I asked someone for such help, I would most certainly thank them if they gave it.Elizabeth Baineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17193751871434773972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-22557093727039684912011-01-18T20:50:22.701+00:002011-01-18T20:50:22.701+00:00Politeness is everything, I would be angry if I wa...Politeness is everything, I would be angry if I was not thanked for helping out the way you have! I don't understand that people have not been more gracious, it makes no sense. Maybe just be more brutal with your filtering process, reply to only the occasional one?nmjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477643084619789093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33010980.post-7192960977156995822011-01-18T20:44:12.129+00:002011-01-18T20:44:12.129+00:00Hmm. I dont know. I do answer these things, if I&#...Hmm. I dont know. I do answer these things, if I've got time... and I don't expect a reply. I don't want to enter into a dialogue, and normally, the thanks are said in advance in the covering letter, as t'were. I don't go into screeds - quick replies usually have to do.<br />But its nice to spread the reality of what writing is like, as opposed to the myths that abound!Vanessa Gebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09088301040602803489noreply@blogger.com